Anger is a strong emotion. Anger can come on so fast and many people may end up saying and doing things that they later deeply regret. The key is available to calm oneself down enough so we can think clearly again. What you need to do is to learn to manage these anger so you can rationally decide. Many relationships have been destroyed by repeated emotional out control of anger.
Here are specific tips to regain a sense of control over angry feelings.
1.Try to focus on yourself when you are upset.
Take deep breath deep from your diaphragm to calm yourself down and more relax. This has to be consciously done to counteract the automatic response of shallow rapid breathing.
2. Think clearly when feeling strong emotions
After you make yourself calm down enough, you can think clearly as how you want to handle the situation
3. Speak in “I” messages instead of “you”.
Talk about yourself and what you are feeling. The other person will react defensively when using “you”.
4. Keep the focus on the situation.
Do not bring in grievances from the past because it will take the focus away from resolving the current situation.
5. Appreciate and value your feelings
The ability to be able to think as to how you want to handle the situation that upset you will lead to successful anger management.
